Relative Something

*this* John W. Hays' take on things and experiences

RS Interview 4

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Picking up where yesterday’s post left off, the Relative Something interview with *The* John W. Hays continues on the topic of love and more…

RS: Love seems like a worthy topic!

JWH: Love is my religion. It is one common theme woven through all world religious beliefs. Love is universal. When situations require a decision, using love as a compass to guide that decision will make the world a better place. No dogma required. Love doesn’t necessarily provide certainty, it accepts mystery. Love is all we need.

RS: Is this a change for you, the focus on love?

JWH: Well, I suppose there has been a transition over the years. I think the primary significance for me was learning to love myself enough to overcome negative self-talk. A secondary shift came about as I grew weary of the abuses and hypocrisies that were being exposed in organized religions. The way political parties wield religious beliefs like weapons. The fact that religious faiths would go to war against other human beings who worship differently.
Humans defining a deity seems like the ultimate hubris to me. And a horrible construct the powerful use to control others and gain wealth. Especially horrible because it is usually masqueraded under a veil of love. Love deserves better. The best response I see to that is to keep the love and leave the rest behind.
I’ve learned to love myself in a more healthy way and use love beyond the confines of organized religion to navigate my interactions with others in the world.

RS: What is something people wouldn’t know about you from reading what you write?

JWH: Not much. I’m embarrassingly transparent. Basically, they won’t know what I don’t write. For some reason, I haven’t been writing about the fact that it’s been so long since I last played guitar that I can’t remember when the last time was. And I probably haven’t written about it because I don’t really know why I stopped. I wonder if it has anything to do with the way I am aging, mentally, and physically, but the influences are too intangible to explain it with one simple pat reason.
Thinking about it, which is what happens when I try to write on the subject –and not writing about it has meant I could avoid thinking about it– I suspect it is related to the amount of time I have been commuting to the day-job four days a week. Exhaustion saps my creative energy. It also leaves less oomph to want to pedal my bikes up hills and into winds. I did not ride a bike at all this summer. When the pandemic canceled the annual June week of biking and camping, I lost that incentive to do conditioning rides. My attention defaulted to property maintenance on our acres. There is always more that can be done than there are hours and days.
The good news is that I have been incredibly happy to do that. I question myself about the health risks of not making music or riding my bikes, but maybe my version of aging is one of working on our property and then nestling inside our gorgeous home to type out my thoughts on a computer.
I have an inkling that a day in the not-so-distant future when that thing called retirement happens, my recreational pursuits could return with a vengeance. I think that would be absolutely lovely.

RS: Amen to that.

Thank you, JWH for agreeing to be the first interviewee in what Relative Something hopes will become an ongoing occasional feature in the years ahead. *This* John W. Hays’ take on things and experiences involves and is influenced by innumerable others. This will provide an opportunity to expand the narrative. Because, why not?

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Written by johnwhays

October 18, 2020 at 8:46 am

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  1. Question about the heart carving — is it “finished” or do you have plans for more? How about the finish — are you going to stain it or keep it “natural?” Have not seen ot for several months so it was good to see it is still around.

    wtbell

    October 19, 2020 at 12:43 am

  2. Hey John! I love the interviews!! A couple things stood out for me. I love the “mantra” of the first interview ;)…and I am saddened by the fact that you have not been playing your guitar! And I think the fact that it was brought up in the “interview” is a good sign. I just yesterday found the FB page of an OLD friend and she had videos of her playing the piano…and guitar…and singing. It reminded me of sitting in a circle and singing along when we were oh so young! And honestly…I can’t sing – though I love to…and I can’t play any instrument THOUGH I WOULD LOVE TO!! Maybe one day…
    and I can’t believe you had SNOW!! It is still near 90 here!!
    Blessings friend!

    lorriebowden

    October 18, 2020 at 10:44 am

    • Oh, Thank you, Lorrie, for letting me know the interview works. It’s never a certainty that my creative efforts will live up to my expectations. I appreciate your interpretation my guitar thoughts are a good sign. I agree with you. Fall is in full swing with winter lined up and ready to go right behind it. We are mostly ready.
      Thank you!

      johnwhays

      October 18, 2020 at 6:19 pm


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