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No Answer

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There are some questions for which there is no answer. I heard one in an NPR interview last night. It was a fair question, but the guest didn’t really know how to answer it. Justifiably so. There was no answer. Sometimes it’s not possible to pick either of two choices.

I can live with that.

Driving home in the dark last night, there was a moment when approaching headlights obscured my view enough that I realized I was driving blind for a distance. I didn’t slow down. I just kept going under the impression it would be okay so to do.

Luckily, it was.

I don’t have a plan for what is next. Something tells me I won’t suddenly decide to try being a stand-up comedian. I’m very confident I will continue to live a life of sobriety.

There are questions I don’t have an answer to, but more often than not, I don’t even have the questions.

It’s pretty easy to not have answers when I don’t know what the questions are. I breathe, put one foot in front of the other, and make my way through the days.

I don’t know what comes next. For now, it’s a question I am okay not answering.



Written by johnwhays

August 2, 2019 at 6:40 am

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  1. ‘No answer’ doesn’t mean that meaningful choices are to be discarded. True there will always be pros and cons to anything… Yes, our choices are the result of value judgements/ gut feelings but such ‘feelings’ have got us here and will get us there if we hold true to all that we are. Nothing comes from nothing: go with what you are… Live the dream which will be reality tomorrow! Linda called it cathedral thinking and when we look at what those who have come before us have put together we wonder how on earth they managed it. Your conscious choice today, may look like eternity to those who come. Richard Dawkins who decries spirituality and the divine gave it to us as the sum of evolution: we are walking archives of ancient wisdom. Know that and all will be well. Walk the talk, my dear friend, you are an integral part of the Way. Great love to you!

    Ian Rowcliffe

    August 2, 2019 at 8:47 am

    • Thank you for this, Ian. Ancient wisdom, indeed. I feel it. I’m definitely okay going with the gut feelings that brought me to where I am today. I’m not sure what comes next, but I am looking forward to whatever it might be!


      August 3, 2019 at 12:06 am

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