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Last Sunday

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Yesterday was our last Sunday with the horses. We spent most of the day with them. It was time well spent. We were blessed with very comfortable weather that allowed us to linger for a while with no agenda except to just be with them.

Eventually, Cyndie hooked up each horse for some individual quality grooming time, head to tail to toe.

You may notice that a couple of weeks has dramatically changed the look of our paddocks. Snow? What snow?

It’s turning to water and flowing over our silt fence.

As the day progressed, the clouds thinned and the gorgeous sunshine lulled the horses into a nap.

Cyndie asked me if I thought we had made the right decision about rehoming the horses.

I answered her with a question. “Are you having second thoughts?”

She said no, but then, why ask about the decision?

There is no right or wrong in life’s adventures when you don’t know what each new day will bring. We didn’t really know what we would accomplish when we moved here. We don’t yet know what we will do after the horses are gone.

We just listen to our hearts, pay attention to our instincts, and strive to integrate them with our minds. Then we send love to the universe and see where it leads.

Travel day is currently scheduled to occur on Thursday this week.

Yesterday, we took full advantage of being home all day with Cayenne, Hunter, and Dezirea for one last Sunday.

I gotta admit, it did feel right.



Written by johnwhays

March 25, 2019 at 6:00 am

7 Responses

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  1. One door closes; another opens. All is good until you are unable to go through the new door — and it turns out that that is good as well


    March 25, 2019 at 1:08 pm

    • Yes! We are definitely busy with a simultaneous process of grieving their departure, and cheering for new opportunities for them and us. Emphasis on the good that will come of this!


      March 25, 2019 at 1:33 pm

  2. Will you still be able to see them? So sad šŸ˜ž


    March 25, 2019 at 6:57 am

    • Yes, happily, we will have full access to spend as much time as we have available to us to be with our horses, although it is over an hour away from home. We are sad about how much we will miss them, but putting most of our energy toward framing this in the best possible way. It is for their good and our good that we are making this change.
      Thank you for expressing your sense about this change!


      March 25, 2019 at 1:15 pm

  3. My two cents: you have been shot through and through with grief, John. This started when Legacy died – in so many ways you have lost your legacy. I was struck with your reaction to the intense smell of the horse blanket in the house the other day. You’d remove the horses so that you don’t suffer the experience again. Interestingly, I think women tend to be better at dealing with grief, dealing with death, knowing that they are the prime vehicle of life as well. That said, you can look at LInda K’s take on this in the Power of the Herd although I rather feel you have had enough. Yes, time to call it quits and look forward to the New Day. You have put your heart and soul into this venture and may feel replenished by saying a few prayers and connecting with all that is. The miracle and beauty of life, no matter what… a big hug!

    Ian Rowcliffe

    March 25, 2019 at 6:29 am

    • Thinking to myself: it takes one to know one: it has been hard to deal with our lead mare, Lucy’s death, too. It feels like life can never be the same again and it can’t. Each moment is truly unique and the best we can do is to be thankful for what we have been lucky enough to share and partake of.

      Ian Rowcliffe

      March 25, 2019 at 6:37 am

      • One last shot at a different scenario: image the truck coming to pick up your horses was bringing Legacy Junior (as I suggested a long time ago) to shed new life and light on your dreams – he is full of life, unchecked: full of go, the reflection of your souls. This is the strength of paradox intention: you move towards your fear rather than away from it. In economics, there is the notion of opportunity cost: when you make one decision, you ought to consider what you are losing – do think about that! You talk of uncertainty but that characterises life and what you make of it. To quote, your countryman, how many roads must a man walk down… just wish you weren’t walking down this one. (Sorry for going on about this…)

        Ian Rowcliffe

        March 25, 2019 at 9:30 am

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