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Wondering Why

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I’m wondering why there are so many people who are inclined toward fear.

I’m wondering why the water doesn’t flow off our property.

I’m wondering why I continue to feel connected to sport teams from where I grew up, despite the many ways they fail.

I’m wondering why people are so quick to polarize.

I’m wondering why I find it so difficult to achieve a full 8-hours sleep in a night.

I’m wondering why brains don’t crave healthy food with the same addictive urge as unhealthy food.

I’m wondering why Cyndie and I tend not to hear delivery trucks that drive up to our house and turn around.

I’m wondering why our pine trees keep dying.

I’m wondering why some dreams linger and others evaporate faster than we can struggle to recall them.

I’m wondering why radicalized extremist purveyors of peace and love don’t receive more recognition.

I’m wondering why fallacies and faulty reasoning are so easily and/or willingly taken as fact by some people.

I’m wondering why more people don’t speak out in the presence of overt bigotry.

I’m wondering why I don’t have a really great picture to go along with a list of wonderings.

I’m wondering why my computer at work suddenly doesn’t have enough RAM to run all the usual applications that I have always used.

I’m wondering why there is such a strong urge to provide answers to things people wonder about.

I’m wondering why rhetorical questions are so fun to ask.

I’m wondering why there seems to be a point where lists get too long to keep a reader engaged.

I’m wondering why I didn’t have inspiration to write about something other than wonderings right now.

I’m wondering why just thinking about love has power to build more love.

I’m wondering why some of people’s most difficult personal challenges tend to be self-induced and basically illusory obstacles.

I’m wondering why I decided to end this list of wonderings right here.

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December 11, 2015 at 7:00 am

Workplace Potluck

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At the day-job we decided to split the difference between the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays and celebrate the season with a potluck lunch halfway between the two. Today is our day.

My contribution consists of having reported the scheduled date to Cyndie and providing creative support while we reviewed ideas for fun and festive possibilities. Then I provided moral support and took over all horse and dog/cat duties while she worked her magic in our kitchen.

The last steps are most difficult since she won’t be coming to work with me, as I will need to serve up everything she made in a pleasing presentation at mealtime. I can probably pull that off.

This year we started with tiny fruit pies baked in her mini-tins. I helped by testing a couple of them.

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Next, since we had so much fun making little bacon cheeseburger bites last Friday for the futsal gathering, we decided to throw some of those in, too. Why not? Cyndie put extra love into them for all the folks at the day-job. We hope they are a hit with the crew.

DSCN4190eI don’t know how the staff will get any work done today. I do know that no one will have any excuses to go home hungry.

I will not be putting in a very thorough effort toward calorie counting until this day is over. One lucky aspect to eating extra calories… I can have more sugar! My goal is to keep my sugar intake to a daily percentage of my total calories.

More calories = room for more sugar. πŸ™‚

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December 10, 2015 at 7:00 am

Horse Peace

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One of the many things I like about our horses is the fact they don’t reflect back to me anything that outrageous politicians say, nor cruelties unleashed by demented terrorists. To stand among the herd in their pasture, there is no sense whatsoever of headline grabbing non-celebrities, no road-raging selfish drivers forcing their anxieties in every direction, no pharmaceutical advertisers listing sickening numbers of possible side effects with encouragement to ask my doctor if their product is right for me.

Nothing but eons of evolved horse sense, and all the peace that comes with that.

It is a priceless gift.

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December 9, 2015 at 7:00 am

Sweet Work

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This time of year, I don’t think a day goes by without something extra sweet going on in our kitchen. While I continue to monitor and moderate the total amount of daily sugar I consume, I have not gotten to the extreme of completely avoiding treats. In a way, that means I face a greater need for self-control to manage my goal.

Β It would probably be easier to just completely refuse any of the sweet things that Cyndie prepares, but I’m not sure. On an annual basis, it’s not that much of an issue for me, but in the weeks around Thanksgiving and Christmas, it does require greater effort on my part.

DSCN4179eLast night I sat at the counter with Cyndie, cutting and wrapping the last of the caramels she made. I think we did it at a good time, because I was stuffed from having just finished eating dinner.

I didn’t eat a single one.

I mean, an entire single one. There was one that came out a little too wide, and needed to be trimmed.

I suppose that fraction of a caramel added a few grams of sugar to my daily total. I probably worked that off in the calories I burned working so diligently on cutting and wrapping.

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December 8, 2015 at 7:00 am

Sanctity

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Sanctity.

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December 7, 2015 at 7:00 am

Horse Explore

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It’s been a while since the horses saw the big pink soccer ball. When we brought it out on Friday, there was a fair amount of apprehension in the herd about the reappearance of the strange object.

Legacy took the lead and tentatively investigated while the other horses stood by. Cayenne wasn’t as excited with the ball and stood by me to observe at a distance.

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December 6, 2015 at 11:05 am

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Fun Friday

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IMG_iP1064eIn the morning on Friday, Pequenita was stretched out at the end of the bed while Cyndie and I were studiously working on our laptops. I know I was working because I can see by the screen that I was in my work email account.

I had stepped away for some reason, and when I returned, I got this view of our cat, stretched long at the spot just beyond where my feet had been, with her front paws tucked beneath her.

How cat-like endearingly appealing that looks.

We had plans for the day that involved creating some fun food to bring to a gathering of a group of futsallers with whom I had played for many years, before my degenerating disks forced my retirement from the game.

IMG_iP1066eI suppose that may have helped to inspire the coincidence of our spontaneously deciding to pull out the giant soccer ball for the horses to play with in the relative warm sunshine of the afternoon.

I recorded a short video so I could provide proof to my old friends that there is soccer still in my life on the ranch. Well, sort of.

The hours after the horse-play were filled with experimenting in the kitchen, where I helped with some taste testing and cutting & wrapping home-made caramels that Cyndie cooked up late Thursday night.

Then it was off through Friday afternoon rush-hour traffic to get to the party where we enjoyed hours of wonderful food and fellowship. I relished the opportunity to catch up with friends and hear stories about the ongoing morning games and the growing participation.

IMG_iP2910eCHIt was nice to meet a couple of the newer players and particularly precious to reconnect with my old favorites. The food was exceptional, to the point we packed a doggy bag of leftover foods that captured our fancy, when retrieving our dishes as our target departure hour arrived… and passed.

Brief moments after I had made the rounds, saying goodbye, a group photo was requested. While we were posing for that, Cyndie’s brother and his wife arrived, prolonging our visit for, I think, two more rotations of saying, “Good night. We have to leave!”

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December 5, 2015 at 10:45 am

Exponentially Homey

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When I arrived home from work yesterday and stepped in the door, I was met by a very happy dog and the smell of deliciousness baking in the kitchen. Cyndie was making good use of leftover sweet potatoes to create delectable taste bud treats.

IMG_iP1052eIt was almost time to feed the horses, so I was offered a chance to pay the herd a visit and allow Cyndie to remain focused on her artistry. I was glad to have the opportunity, because I was rewarded with a bountiful spread of things to test when I returned.

I rated her efforts a smashing success.

My visit to the barn was also rewarding for me. Each of our four horses gave me a good few minutes of personal attention, after I had cleaned up around them and served up their feed.

The setting sun was putting on quite a show for us at the time.

IMG_iP1044eI felt extraordinarily lucky to have all this waiting to greet me at home after work.

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December 4, 2015 at 7:00 am

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People Grouping

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Obviously, we are all individuals, but there is no denying that people are pretty easily grouped for any number of reasons, one of which being, it’s just plain fun to do!

The other day, I decided there are three kinds of people. Those who grab a knob to open a drawer or a closet door without ever noticing the knob is spinning loose β€”causing it to get worse with every use, …those who try to fix loose knobs by tightening it until the threads strip β€”making it impossible to ever fix, …and those who are aware of the situation before they ever grab a knob β€”leading to handling it in such a way it doesn’t spin loose every time or causing thread damage when snugging it up when needed.

It is a known fact that there are two kinds of drivers other than ourselves: Maniacs who drive faster than us and idiots who drive slower. I’m gaining plenty of experience with driving styles during my hour-long commutes to and from work.

Seems to me there are three groups of people in the left/fast/passing lane of the expressway: Those who pick their comfortable speed and stay put, oblivious to what other cars around them are seeking to do, …those who pick a speed below what other fast lane drivers prefer, staying in the left lane no matter what, as if to spite anyone behind them who wishes to drive faster, …and those who drive in the left lane while passing slower cars, but notice immediately if someone approaches from behind at a greater speed, in which case this third group of drivers will move over at the earliest opportunity to allow the faster driver to proceed past.

It’s not rocket science, people.

For grouping people in the world, I think 3 is the ideal number. Splitting us into 2 groups is too easy. Anything more than 3 becomes an exercise in “where do you stop?” If you break it down into 4, you may as well go to 5. Oh, heck, why stop there?

See? Three is perfect.

On people’s opinions about a roll of toilet paper: Those who believe it should be mounted to roll off the top, …those who believe it should roll off the bottom, …and those who don’t give a flying eff what direction it comes from. (Okay, sometimes 4 isn’t all bad… those who say, “Toilet paper? A place to mount it? I wish!”)

Mostly, there are three kinds of people in the world.

I tend to see myself as residing somewhere in the group between the maniacs and the idiots.

Don’t we all?

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December 3, 2015 at 7:00 am

Remembering Fondly

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Back in July of this year, my transition from staying home to manage our property 7-days a week, to working at the old day-job again, began in earnest. Now that we have received some snow, I am reminded of the luxury I enjoyed being home last winter, able to clear our driveway and paths immediately on the mornings after an accumulation.

Every minute in the life of a snowflake there is change. As soon as it stops growing, it begins to deteriorate. When innumerable flakes land and cover all surfaces, time allows them opportunity to become one.

By the time I arrived home yesterday afternoon, the snow on the driveway was freezing/refreezing into something of a cement-like coating. It did not motivate a desire to plow. I’m going to wait and let the daytime temperatures clean the driveway.

The current forecast is indicating the likelihood of above freezing temperatures for a week.

Last winter, I would often be the only one out plowing and shoveling on weekday mornings. I loved to pause and enjoy the snow-dampened quiet of our winter world.

When snow is cleared right away, asphalt or cement surfaces will often dry up, whether temperatures are warm, or not. By afternoon, the only way you could tell that it had snowed was the giant piles of clean, white snow lining the sides of the driveway. It is a look that I hold a great fondness for, and one for which I enjoy the process of creating.

DSCN4166eNow that I don’t have that same luxury, the value of these memories has grown.

I have figured out I can enjoy by proxy through Cyndie. I recognized Monday night that it would help if I shared the trick with her about clearing snow early, when it comes to our front steps. She has not been in a habit of needing to tend to the steps, because I would usually take care of it. I pointed out the benefit of dealing with it right away.

When I got home from work yesterday, I stepped out of the house to observe Cyndie exercising Delilah (who has recovered quickly from her brief stomach upset, by the way) and found the steps perfectly clean and dry.

Success!

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December 2, 2015 at 7:00 am