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Just Watching

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Day after day, reports are given about the numbers of Russian troops massing along the border with Ukraine. We’ve been hearing about it for months. What would it take for this conflict to not happen?

Over and over we hear about the mass detention of Uyghurs in China while nations continue to do business with the country and allow them to host the Winter Olympics. What would it take for the persecution of innocent people to not happen?

To where should the millions upon millions of refugees and displaced people on the planet fleeing from conflicts or natural disasters migrate? What if the countries of the world worked together to solve the need to find homes for displaced people?

Why are some US people so desperate to prevent the inclusion in our public education system of the true history of racial injustices in this country? What if we all accepted what really happened?

It’s as if the human race is incapable of avoiding the creation of our own pain and misery.

Imagine if Putin put all the money and effort of his troop build-up and cyber warfare into making life better for all the individual citizens of Russia. Imagine if Communist China put all the expense and effort of spying on and controlling their own citizens toward making the happiness of all its people the number one priority.

Imagine if the US government was actually functional as a two-party system that collaborated to accomplish the will of all the citizens.

Imagine if all humans felt equal amounts of empathy for others who are suffering. What if all people were fully attuned to their gut and heart intelligence, in addition to their brains, and functioned in complete balance among all three?

Adulting can be hard. Emotional intelligence much?

I recently watched a documentary movie that made a big impression on me. Afterward, I searched online for information about the movie and came upon a series of reviews critical of the many shortcomings of the film. Reading the critiques helped me to more fully process what I’d seen and tempered my reaction to it.

The writer/director wasn’t wrong, but neither were the reviewers who found fault with his movie. None of us are exclusively good or bad, or right or wrong. We are all of these.

Still, I wish we didn’t have to just watch helplessly while conflicts around the world play out in a relative slow motion display of the worst of human behaviors.

Put a little love in your heart

and the world will be a better place



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February 20, 2022 at 7:47 am

Looking Forward

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I am looking forward to the sun setting once and for all on unethical leadership,

on hidden financial arrangements of people in government,

on blatant disinformation and deliberate distortion of reality,

on mocking in any form by someone holding office,

on bullying, period,

on misogyny,

on racism,

white supremacy,



on holier than thou hypocrisies,

on gaslighting,

on selfish disdain for the real suffering of others,

on the belittling of science and those who hold degreed expertise,

on the denial of climate science and the impact of industrialization,

on juvenile petty behavior,

on misuse of funds, privileges, technologies, information,

on complete disregard for protocols,

on profiteering, scamming, swindling, nepotism and cronyism,

on corruption in any form in the United States government.

Why, why would anyone ever support any of that, let alone all of it in one administration over four short years?


Lest we forget the horrors




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November 4, 2020 at 7:00 am

We’re Humans

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Sometimes I imagine that it’s possible a time will come when everyone will understand the same realities. I suspect the ultimate truth will have something to do with love and the fact that “we all do better when we all do better.” (Paul Wellstone quote)

With the recent run of media reliving the Apollo 11 moon landing fifty years ago, I’ve been enjoying the glimpses of the worldwide reaction over the accomplishment. During the subsequent promotional tour that NASA scheduled, the astronauts reported a common reaction from people of all the countries they visited.

The throngs of well-wishers weren’t just focused on what the astronauts did. The common chant was, “We did it!” It was commonly seen as something that humans did to escape the bonds of earth and set foot on a different celestial perch.

Here’s to a day when all humans finally realize we truly are one.




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July 15, 2019 at 6:00 am