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Happiness Is

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Happiness is: getting multiple piles of compost tossed, watered down, and reshaped for further processing and able to be ignored for days.

Happiness is: getting the tall green grass mowed while minimizing driving over the brittle, roasted portions everywhere else.

Happiness is: finding a new use for a teapot that the house sitter accidentally let boil dry, leaving it damaged beyond repair. (!)

Happiness is: seeing our dog meandering near me as I mowed while Cyndie is on dog watch and witnessing him suddenly sprint off in her direction when he heard the beeping tone on his e-collar indicating Cyndie was calling for him. Good dog!

Happiness is: sending an interesting article to Julian via text and receiving an even more interesting article from him in response.

Happiness is: hearing Elysa checking in with Cyndie over the phone and knowing she will be getting herself up to the lake place over the weekend.

Happiness is: group texting where one message reaches everyone successfully, regardless of where they may be.

Happiness is: having an air-conditioned home for relief after laboring for hours in high heat.

Happiness is: the sound of laughter from Cyndie on a phone call with her brothers.

Happiness is: being able to accept an overnight invitation to visit friends out of town.

Happiness is: receiving a positive rsvp to an invitation sent to old friends for them to come for a visit to Wintervale.

Happiness is: hearing a rare cut I don’t recognize from one of my long-time favorite singer-songwriters.

Happiness is: succeeding in manipulating pre-formatted website software into something that aligns with our sensibilities.

Happiness is: something that can be cultivated with intentional effort if a person puts their mind to it.

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Written by johnwhays

August 13, 2026 at 6:00 am

Happiness Expedition

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Surfing for something to watch during a fabulous dinner of a grilled chicken sandwich with a slice of tomato fresh from the garden and just-picked sweetcorn, brought us to the 2017 documentary, “Expedition Happiness.” What a fun surprise that turned out to be since we didn’t know anything about Felix Starck (“Pedal the World”) or Selima “Mogli” Taibi and their excellent chronicle of traveling Canada, the United States, and Mexico in a refurbished school bus they modified themselves.

Their expedition provided plenty of happiness but was not without trials and tribulations. I found it refreshing that they succeeded repeatedly in reframing the difficulties in a way that always saved room for happiness to continue to exist. I would do well to emulate this exercise as often as I can. My happiness tends to get smothered by the depths of instant despair sparked by one thing after another when trying to bring order to life’s ongoing chaos.

Yes, we have an adopted 16-month-old rescued mixed-breed puppy. Yes, we are caretakers of 20 acres of fields and forests. Yes, we have a 33-year-old log home that is beginning to show signs of settling to a point that deserves professional analysis and possible intervention. Yes, we are both retired and living on a tighter budget than our working years. Yes, we are over a year into waiting on a landscape contractor to finish grading the edges of our 900-foot driveway after being told repeatedly we are on their schedule (current “guess” is possibly the week after next –where have I heard that before?).

Still, I am truly happy, even though I felt a scary twinge in my back yesterday while wielding my favorite new hedge trimmer to cut back tall growth that was bending over our path around the outside of the hay field fence. I changed up my routine for a bit and went back later to carefully finish without further physical damage but as the evening wore on, the rest of my body began the natural reaction of tightening up to restrict movement that might exacerbate the disc degeneration affliction.

I’m happy to be newly inspired to try making use of the little plums we get from a few American Plum trees distributed around our land. Cyndie tells me she did try one year but after pitting and pureeing a batch she had to store them in the refrigerator while heading out of town. By the time she returned, they had fermented.

I think the pitting effort dissuaded her from trying again in the seasons since. Maybe if I offer some of my labor I can coerce her into trying again for a jam or other concoction of her choosing.

When the beautiful fruit is falling off the tree onto our walking path, it seems a shame to not put it to use beyond feeding wildlife and decomposing into our soil.

Taking advantage of free natural fruit growing on our land is the kind of thing that provides bonus happiness for our ongoing adventures.

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