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It all started out so well. Moving horses that aren’t fond of trailers proved to be a little more dramatic than we hoped yesterday. Cyndie brought them out, one by one. First, Cayenne.

Cayenne was understandably cautious, but eventually made it all the way to the front position inside the trailer, remaining calm while Hunter whinnied from the barn. His turn came next.

You might sense his uncertainty, visible in his body language in that image. Regardless, he championed through navigation of his footing on the unfamiliar ramp, and took up his assigned position near Cayenne.

We learned, after the fact, that Dezirea does not like being trailered. She actually surprised me by how impressively she overcame her usual heightened sensitivities and soldiered through the “scary” sights and sounds to get into the trailer. All except that last step, where one back foot slipped off the side of the ramp.

She had a bit of a tantrum in the back of the trailer and stalled proceedings for quite some time while we struggled to calm her and secure her position. She ended up backward from our initial intentions, but that ultimately turned out okay, and actually ended up making her exit that much easier.

The best news of all was that the return to their former home worked out brilliantly.

In fact, Cyndie and I now have a better understanding of just how right our decision was to rehome the horses, not for our sake, but for the horses’.

They have been well cared for and deeply loved by us, but their world as horses wasn’t all it could be. After Legacy died, their world changed. They all lost their leader, but Dezirea had lost her partner. Their health forced us to restrict their access to our rich pastures.

Their world had shrunk.

When Cyndie described how all three were welcomed back by their old herd-mates yesterday, and saw how quickly Dezirea got to be the boss mare again, adored by the geldings/boys who she helped raise when they were young, it solidified a belief that the return of the three horses we were caring for was ultimately the best outcome.

It is very jarring now to walk past our paddocks and through the barn and not have their precious energy present. That will take some getting used to. But, knowing they are among their old herd again and have returned to their previous horse relationships, greatly eases angst we were having about the difficult decision of sending them home.




Written by johnwhays

March 29, 2019 at 6:00 am

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  1. What great photos and the video is melancholy and heartwarming at the same time. I’m glad you’re feeling good about your decision, even though the coming days will be tough as you adjust to “new” life at Wintervale. Thinking of you guys….


    March 29, 2019 at 7:31 am

    • Thank you! You’re spot on in your assessment of melancholy/heartwarming/tough adjustment.


      March 29, 2019 at 8:44 am

    • Yes, I agree with your sentiments about the film. As to the rest, it is uncharted territory or maybe and, most likely, a return to convention, accountability and responsibility. As they say, no man is an island. Whatever we do, truth prevails. And, yet we may still find consolation in knowing that we are part of that Greater Truth – just specks of sand in the winds of time – but, No, breathe in and cherish our divine fortune to be a part of it all. What abundant Grace abounds! It is all there in front of us…..

      Ian Rowcliffe

      March 29, 2019 at 9:12 am

      • The horses demonstrated, with notable grace, the fine equine art of being in the moment as they reacquainted themselves with their old mates. One more iteration of the many valuable life lessons they have shared with us over the years we spent together.


        March 29, 2019 at 9:20 am

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