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Other Mother

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When I married Cyndie, I officially gained my other mother, Marie. At the time, I had no idea what that was going to be like, but my sense was that it would be good. For the prior seven years when Cyndie and I were dating, I had enjoyed time with her family almost as much as with her alone.

Now, thirty-six years later, I can report that my mother-in-law experience has been infinitely better than I could possibly have imagined.

Cyndie’s mother, Marie, is celebrating a milestone birthday today. This morning we are gathering for breakfast at a restaurant to honor the occasion. This is particularly fitting, because family breakfasts under Marie’s skillful direction have been a priceless treat over the years.

If anyone ever happened to express a preference for something, maybe commenting about how they like their eggs prepared, Marie would notice and remember, serving up a perfect variety of versions every year after to assure everyone always gets what they want.

Marie’s balance of being exceptionally adventurous while also nurturing an organized routine of most activities have added depth, and provided stability, to my life as an in-law. We share enough traits to be in sync often, and clash only rarely.

Probably best of all for me, Marie has a keen sense of humor. She is ever so gracious in allowing herself be the target of jabs, while also being wily enough to play along with ever-present silliness and get in a few of her own pokes along the way.

It’s considered bad manners to reveal a lady’s age, so I will avoid blurting it out in public, but let’s just say it’s a good round number that just might have an 8 in it.

Happy Birthday, my other mom. You are terrific!

Keep up the good work.













Written by johnwhays

September 15, 2017 at 6:00 am

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  1. 🎉Happiest of birthdays Marie 🎉 Thank You for being the best other mother of my brother as well as a treasured Hays family friend 💞🎂💗


    September 15, 2017 at 1:44 pm

  2. Happy birthday Marie! It has been an honor for us to met you, you are amazing! All our love from Guatemala to you, tons of hugs!!


    September 15, 2017 at 9:01 am

  3. Love it!


    September 15, 2017 at 7:59 am

  4. What a beautiful way to wake up on my 80th birthday morning and read your blog with your thoughtful words. Your thoughtful words made me cry with joy and what a beautiful birthday present you have given to me. I thank you so much and want you to know I consider you another son to me.
    What a great way to start my day !!!!!!!

    Marie Friswold

    September 15, 2017 at 7:02 am

    • I’m so pleased you found this before breakfast. 🙂 Love you!


      September 16, 2017 at 11:04 am

  5. Beautiful

    George Walker

    September 15, 2017 at 6:26 am

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