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Re-framing Hunter

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IMG_2854eBefore our horses arrived here, we received a description of them that included details about Hunter having been kicked in the head after he was born. We were told that it had caused him to be a little slow to learn and that he tended to get picked on by other horses in their herd.

It is my intention that this will be the last time I ever make mention of this.

After our 4 arrived here, we sensed that Hunter had his own way of doing things, but it didn’t come across as him being slow to learn. Still, every time we noticed him askew of the other horses, we imagined the story we had been told, and assumed that it was a likely justification for his unique behavior.

Every time I introduced our horses, or talked about them when away, I found myself repeating that story we had been told. It was who Hunter was to me.

Not anymore.

Hopefully, never again. We are going to tell a new story of Hunter. For me, the first incident that spawned this change happened the last time George was trimming the horses. He had one of Hunter’s front legs up in the air and Hunter seemed to have a problem with a fly or something. Hunter picked up his other front leg and reached up over George’s back with a scratching motion.

The image of a horse rearing up on its hind legs is a normal thing to picture, but Hunter wasn’t “rearing up.” Picture a horse standing horizontal and lifting both front legs.

George said, “Don’t let this horse ever make you think he can’t do something. That took a lot of athletic ability. Most horses would fall over if they tried that.”

While Dunia has been here these last two weeks, and when Rachael spent a day with them working the horses, Hunter has proven to be a very capable student and has responded well to their direction. He has needed some extra attention, because of his usual pattern of avoidance to being haltered, but that behavior is one to which Dunia has been training.

We tended to accept his avoidance behavior as understandable, given “the story.”

When I think back to the memorable interactions I’ve had with Hunter, of which there are plenty, not one of them ever seemed like he was reacting to any sort of disability.

This week, Cyndie and I had an epiphany about our perception of Hunter. There is no reason we need to perceive him through the filter of that story we were told. We are going to re-frame Hunter to the horse we have direct experience witnessing. He will now receive a new vision of himself from us.

Hunter is an athletic, intelligent, beautiful, awesome, and truly capable horse.

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Written by johnwhays

August 15, 2015 at 8:17 am

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  1. Beautiful words! I think Hunter has taught us such an important lesson here! I’m sure we all would benefit from challenging the perception filters we unquestioningly take on. Taking the time to break through to a more authentic understanding leads us to more meaningful and connected interactions. Everyone deserves a chance to be understood as they are.

    Thank you for this, dad!

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    Elysa

    August 15, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    • You are welcome! We are already seeing a change in Hunter’s behavior, in light of our new projections of how we see him. Imagine if we were aware of how our perception of people impacts their self image and thus their behavior to us!
      Indeed, Hunter has taught us a very valuable lesson.

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      johnwhays

      August 15, 2015 at 2:39 pm


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