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Imagine Outrageous Possibilities

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From the 1982 movie, “Night Shift” with Michael Keaton and Henry Winkler– Bill: What if you mix the mayonnaise in the can, WITH the tunafish? Or… hold it! Chuck! I got it! Take LIVE tuna fish, and FEED ’em mayonnaise! Oh this is great.
[speaks into tape recorder]

I cannot say how many times have I repeated the phrase about mixing mayonnaise into the can of tuna, out of context of the movie, but it comes to mind whenever I am around the brainstorming of ideas.

Bill: I’m an idea man Chuck, I get ideas, sometimes I get so many ideas that I can’t even fight them off!

The other day at work we were passing the time with some idle chit chat and the topic touched on needing to get gas for the car. Someone lamented how much they hate fueling the car in the winter and wondered why someone hasn’t created a drive-in gas station for the colder geographical locations. We all agreed we would be satisfied paying a few more cents per gallon for that convenience. I figured, why stop at that? I suggested someone offer NASCAR pit crew service stations that get you serviced in less than a minute and give you a drink while you are waiting.

I continued dreaming outloud. Next I want to have my car fueled while in motion like the fighter jets do it. A tanker with large wheels can just drive up over my car and do what the aircraft do to get fuel. Then I came back toward reality and mentioned that there should be a service like the windshield replacement or the mobile car wash vans that come to your parking spot while you work and take care of your car. A fuel truck could come to your car and fill it while you stayed warm and dry at work.

It’s funny to be doing all this forward thinking with a group that includes people who are disinclined to use credit cards and some of whom opt to receive a paper check in lieu of the direct deposit payroll option. I guess it is easier to dream about such possibilities than to commit to actually trusting newfangled conveniences.

On the way home I stopped and got gas in the cold, windy darkness of a Minnesota winter and realized the beauty of the ideas we were throwing around earlier.

Bill: Wanna know why I carry this tape recorder? To tape things. See, I’m an idea man, Chuck. I got ideas coming at me all day… I couldn’t even fight ’em off if I wanted. Wait a second… hold the phone! Hold the phone!
[speaking into tape recorder]
Bill: Idea to eliminate garbage. Edible paper. You eat it, it’s gone! You eat it, it’s outta there! No more garbage!

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December 31, 2009 at 7:00 am

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Stray Electrons

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What is the deal with static electricity? Either my sensitivity to static shocks has increased with age or the voltages are growing ever more charged. I absolutely dread reaching out and touching grounded surfaces this time of year. I look like a demented seal, the way I flap at the surface in repeating strokes, hoping to drain the charge before really grasping anything.

Inevitably, I get distracted enough by some task to drop my guard, and that is when I have really been getting bit. Lately, some of them have been intense enough to trigger a reflexive yelp. Then I have to try to cover that up as if I was just coughing, …in a really high pitch. And that is a whole ‘nother challenge, since I’m trying to do this with adrenaline injected into my system from the shock, which has my heart thumping at near-capacity and my muscles are all wigged out from the massive involuntary contraction they were just subjected to.

I once experienced a static shock that deserved a yell. It actually drew blood. I was walking down a carpeted hallway and reached for a metal doorknob, and before I even touched it I saw the blue-pink light of the arc flash from the doorknob to my finger. It snapped like the sound bubble wrap makes when it pops, and it felt like I had been poked by a needle. I instinctively grabbed my finger with my other hand, and when I squeezed, it bled just like it does when the nurse pricks your finger. I wonder how many bajillian volts that must have been.

There is a metal bookshelf at work, upon which a file of orders rests. On occasion, I will pay multiple visits to this file, getting up from my cloth upholstered chair to do so. The shocks have been arcing from the top shelf, to hit me in the mid-section, through my shirt! I’m sure this must take years off a life-span. It is funny to me now to recall that when we were kids, we used to skate around the carpet in our socks and then purposefully shock each other just for the thrill. Ah, the foibles of youth.

Most people tend to offer up all sorts of creative solutions, like wearing chains that drag on the floor to constantly keep your body grounded, but I think that is missing a great opportunity. We should be working to harness this energy. Capture it and store it to power our cell phones and cameras and iPods. The trick is to release the power to these devices in much more reasonable doses than the mega-volt arcs leaping out at us from all surfaces during the dry winter months.

Be careful out there.

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December 30, 2009 at 7:00 am

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More Things

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More things I don’t understand:

I don’t understand why a full team of 11 individuals can all at the same time, contrary to how they have performed for 14 games prior, suddenly fail to execute their duties in a satisfactory manner in order to succeed at a minimum of 50% of what they are trying to do, especially when the opponents they are facing are statistically inferior.

I don’t understand how all the gears and joints, wire connections, springs and seals, function as well as they do from intense summer heat to sub-zero winter temperatures in today’s vehicles.

I don’t understand why an almost invisible sliver in my finger can effectively render me helpless and why the pain is so incredibly large for something so particularly small.

I don’t understand why truth is so often stranger than fiction.

I don’t understand why I can’t will myself to not be bothered by a losing effort of my home sports teams and instead turn on a good comedy and spend the time laughing instead of being frustrated.

I don’t understand why the teams I root for do okay when I don’t watch, and then as soon as I return to viewing, their performance returns to dismal.

I don’t understand why things like sports competition that don’t really matter in the grand scheme of life, death and peace on earth, garner so much time and attention from so many people like me.

I don’t understand why death is such a surprise to some people, since it happens to everyone and can occur at any time.

I don’t understand why the phenomenon of a ghost is normally considered to be a scary and threatening apparition, with the exception of Casper.

I don’t understand why some people attach so much importance to a somewhat arbitrary marker denoting the end of a calendar year that in reality is no different than any other of the 364 days.

I don’t understand why some people don’t understand that not understanding is no problem if it doesn’t really make any difference in the world whether you understand or not.

Time marches on.

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December 29, 2009 at 7:00 am

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Puzzling

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How ’bout a little slide show of my recent adventures?… There were presents and snowflakes and shadow pictures on the house next door. But the surprise of the weekend was something that I’m pretty sure my siblings will be able to appreciate, maybe even be a little jealous over.

I was shoveling the driveway for the fifth or sixth time of the long weekend on Saturday and reached the mailbox to find a package had been delivered, addressed to Cyndie. She didn’t recall what it could be, so the surprise was for both of us. She had ordered a puzzle for me, custom made out of a map centered on the location of our home! If it wasn’t so fun, I’d think it was educational.

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December 28, 2009 at 7:00 am

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Subtle Silence

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subtlety
of silence
lost
in a moment
unnoticed
amid the glitter
of innumerable things
that demand our attention
beyond one’s capacity
to mindfully deny
begs us to see
the value inherent
in the pause
to be quiet
and listen
to nothing
and actually hear
everything
within
that silence
provides

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December 27, 2009 at 10:42 am

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A Day After

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‘Twas the day after Christmas, and all through my house, I’m not quite sure what has happened or what the heck to do next. I expect it has already been done several times over, but you could write a book about the myriad experiences relating to the day after. I’ve already written about feeling that anticipating an event is better for me than the actual event. I think what that sets up is an even bigger letdown when the day after the event arrives.

There is a component of ‘I should’ in the perceptions I have. I should feel more fulfilled from all the giving and feasting and laughing. I should have given more attention to someone at last night’s gathering. At the same time, there are some really great interactions that do paint the overall experience and provide a pleasing afterglow of the communing with other souls. So I end up with an odd mixture of feeling satisfied, and a bit empty at the same time. Yet, in the end, it’s not so odd. It’s life, after all. Life is not “either/or” it is “both/and.” We get both the highs and the lows in all things we do.

If we are insightful enough to navigate it, the result is all good. Both the highs and the lows. It’s all good. Just gotta discover the tricks of finding it as such. Become enlightened. It’s a pretty good view.

* composed while hearing Joni Mitchell sing “River” in the background.

Lyrics to River :
It’s coming on Christmas
They’re cutting down trees
They’re putting up reindeer
And singing songs of joy and peace
Oh I wish I had a river
I could skate away on
But it don’t snow here
It stays pretty green
I’m going to make a lot of money
Then I’m going to quit this crazy scene
I wish I had a river
I could skate away on
I wish I had a river so long
I would teach my feet to fly
Oh I wish I had a river
I could skate away on
I made my baby cry

He tried hard to help me
You know, he put me at ease
And he loved me so naughty
Made me weak in the knees
Oh I wish I had a river
I could skate away on
I’m so hard to handle
I’m selfish and I’m sad
Now I’ve gone and lost the best baby
That I ever had
Oh I wish I had a river
I could skate away on
I wish I had a river so long
I would teach my feet to fly
Oh I wish I had a river
I made my baby say goodbye

It’s coming on Christmas
They’re cutting down trees
They’re putting up reindeer
And singing songs of joy and peace
I wish I had a river
I could skate away on

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December 26, 2009 at 11:31 am

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Feels Like Christmas

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Merry Christmas everyone! I stayed up good and late last night working on that last minute project. Now it’s on to the feasting and exchanging of gifts. I hope you all find blessing showering down like snowflakes around you to smooth out the day and bath you in pure white light. If there is still any eggnog left, a bit of that might be worth a sip, too. It’s a lot better today than in a few weeks when you discover it got shoved to the back of the refrigerator and mostly forgotten.

Go ahead and smile like you did when you were a kid and the parents finally let you in to see what Santa left under the tree for you. It still feels pretty good just thinking about it. And from the looks on the little faces I’ve been witnessing the last few days, the experience is pretty much still the same for them as it was for me all those decades ago.

Ho-ho-ho!

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December 25, 2009 at 7:00 am

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A Real Poem

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I’m trying to remember why some nights I can’t remember anything that I’ve ever done in my life. It’s as if I just suddenly started existing a few short moments ago. Then all of a sudden it’s snowing 2 inches an hour. That’s not all that special, until it turns out to continue at that rate for hours on end. That leads to a lot of snow. That leads to lots of shoveling.

Sometimes, paint is the only thing that separates me from the wall over there. Regardless, there is a Christmas poem that ranks right up there as one of my favoritest and in a lot of ways probably influences my penchant for writing with a melodic rhythm to establish phrasing of a line. I am particularly impressed by the date it was originally published: 1823. 1823! It is Clement Clarke Moore’s “A Visit From St. Nicholas.” Read it again, and let it remind you of the first time you ever heard it…

A VISIT FROM ST. NICHOLAS.

Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
And mamma in her kerchief, and I in my cap,
Had just settled our brains for a long winter’s nap—

When out on the lawn there rose such a clatter,
I sprang from my bed to see what was the matter,
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
The moon, on the breast of the new-fallen snow,
Gave a lustre of mid-day to objects below;
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a miniature sleigh, and eight tiny rein-deer,
With a little old driver, so lively and quick,
I knew in a moment it must be St. Nick.
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name;

“Now, Dasher! now, Dancer! now, Prancer and Vixen!
On! Comet, on! Cupid, on! Dunder and Blitzen—
To the top of the porch, to the top of the wall!
Now, dash away, dash away, dash away all!”
As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky,
So, up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
With a sleigh full of toys—and St. Nicholas too.
And then in a twinkling I heard on the roof,
The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound.

He was dressed all in fur from his head to his foot,
And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot;
A bundle of toys he had flung on his back,
And he looked like a peddler just opening his pack;
His eyes how they twinkled! his dimples how merry!
His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry;

His droll little month was drawn up like a bow,
And the beard on his chin was as white as the snow;
The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
And the smoke, it encircled his head like a wreath.
He had a broad face, and a little round belly
That shook when he laughed, like a bowl full of jelly.

He was chubby and plump—a right jolly old elf;
And I laughed when I saw him in spite of myself.
A wink of his eye, and a twist of his head,
Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.
He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
And filled all the stockings; then turned with a jerk,
And laying his finger aside of his nose,
And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose.
He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
And away they all flew like the down of a thistle;
But I heard him exclaim, ere he drove out of sight,
“Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night!”

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December 24, 2009 at 7:00 am

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Creating Christmas Memories

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This is what Christmas is all about. There is no comparison for the little ones who are just learning the wonderful moments that make up the gathering of loved ones for festive foods, bunches of laughter and, of course, the giving of gifts.

About 22 years ago, with just our little 1-year-old daughter, Cyndie and I moved from our home in Minneapolis back to the suburb where we grew up. In Cyndie’s search for local baby-sitters at that time, she decided to check with the nearby churches to see if there was anyone they might recommend. She struck gold. We didn’t know how lucky we were at the time, but it seemed pretty great that there was a young girl who lived within walking distance that they referred us to.

Melissa rather quickly moved from just baby-sitting to more extended child-care and then our summer girl and ultimately became a natural extended member of our family. She not only took care of our kids when they were young, she stayed connected as they grew and went off to college. She stayed connected even as she grew up, got married and started her own family.

Last night we kicked off this year’s Christmas events with Mel’s family, over to our house for dinner and presents. What a treat to have people like this in our lives to share the love of family and the nurturing of children toward healthy, happy developing individuals. We are truly blessed.

We have a pretty funny tradition that has unintentionally developed between Cyndie and Mel’s husband, Greg. It started quite a few years ago when Cyndie gave Greg a snow-globe ornament that she had seen in a catalog. When he got it all unwrapped from the protective packing material, the little scene inside that was supposed to be a quaint winter landscape was revealed. It looked kinda spooky. What was supposed to be a tree that had lost all its leaves, looked more like a tree that had lost its life, …years ago. But this snow-globe was a deluxe model. It came with sound-effects. We found a battery and turned it on. I think it was supposed to sound like wind, and occasionally, a crow calling from the dead tree. It sounded as spooky as it looked and the squawking conjured up visions of horror movies more than anything pleasant about winter. I can’t imagine what Greg must have thought about this family that Mel had gotten mixed up with. He ever so graciously navigated receiving that lemon of a gift and it has become a great source of laughter ever since.

Poor Greg must flinch whenever he learns it is time to visit the Hays family for a Christmas gift exchange again. This year, Cyndie gave him the option, before he even opened his present, to exchange it for a gift card to Home Depot. He politely took her up on the offer after he saw the plastic mold of the front end of a 69 Corvette with a 3″ wide piece of glass that rests on top to make a shelf to hang on the wall. Um, I guess it looked a lot more impressive in the catalog.

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December 23, 2009 at 7:00 am

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Avert Your Eyes

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The holiday collage-photo was hastily thrown together at the last minute on Sunday when Cyndie asked for something to send to her friends. I regret that it is ripe for critique in all aspects of artistic integrity and discretion of composition. The kids in front of an icy waterfall in the high country of Norway, wearing their sunglasses, and totally out of context head shots of mom and dad pasted in opposite corners –Cyndie dressed for work, John from his Himalayan trek. I’m sorry. Now it just needs the annual letter describing more minutiae about each person than can be believed and we have a classic package.

I’m going to pretend I don’t know anything about it and carry on with my usual activities as if I have nothing new to be embarrassed about. Too bad that it is like the proverbial car crash. It’s awful to witness, but you can’t get yourself to look away. Oh boy. What have I done?

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December 22, 2009 at 7:00 am

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