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Enormous Void

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Since I no longer work for a living, yesterday’s New Year’s Day holiday was no different than a typical Wednesday for me. Hoping to pay some respect to the festive occasion, I rustled up a college football game on television to entertain me in fine holiday fashion. That is when I unexpectedly witnessed a brief statement of news from a sports announcer.

Their “BREAKING NEWS” moment revealed to me there had been a terrorist attack in New Orleans, and it was causing a 24-hour delay in the playoff game scheduled to happen in the stadium there. Not the most joyful start for a new year.

The (peaceful) void in our home due to Asher’s week with a trainer has been filled after Cyndie and I picked him up on Tuesday. The rabbits and lackadaisical pigeons better take note that the sheriff’s back in town. I’m sure we will have plenty of opportunities to practice the “Leave IT!” command in the days ahead.

There was also a void in the latest jigsaw puzzle I assembled that had me overthinking many of my decisions about which piece went where.

After the initial build, there comes some sectional rearranging, which then permits the opening of a second bag of pieces to complete a surprise middle. Good fun in a hand-me-over gift from my sister, Judy. My hat’s off to the artist who created the multitude of entertaining details and strategically repeated portions that allow the image to be manipulated like the last page of a MAD magazine.

Ultimately, however, the most enormous void I am experiencing is the result of a member of my virtual community, Brainstorms MetaNetwork, having ended his life between Christmas and New Year’s. That was such shockingly unexpected information to read on a typical pass through new posts Tuesday morning.

I never met him in real life, but we’ve been hanging out in the same discussion spaces online for more than a couple of decades. It definitely strikes a nerve knowing he dealt with depression and some stressful life situations. He has left a lot of folks with challenges of grief, and it has currently tarnished the start of the new year for us.

I keep seeing that hole in the puzzle I built and thinking that is what our virtual community looks like this week.

I’m sure the families and friends of victims of the incident in New Orleans early yesterday morning are feeling even larger holes in their lives today.

It feels like there isn’t enough love to fill the void, but what better response could I give?

Join me, because we can conjure love from out of nowhere by simply thinking it into existence and then feeling it in our hearts. On top of that, when we are focused on love, and manifesting it into being, there is a simultaneous absence of hate occurring. Less hate, more love. Send it! Feed the world what it truly needs.

There is a tremendous void deserving of our attention, and it is within the reach of all of our hearts.

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Written by johnwhays

January 2, 2025 at 7:00 am

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  1. I was so looking forward to 2025 after the disaster that was 2024, but it’s starting off with a bittersweet milestone—I’m officially selling my childhood home. The closing kept getting delayed last year because the lawyers couldn’t seem to get their act together, but it’s finally happening. Once the sale is complete, I’ve decided to permanently distance myself from my entire family, including my mom.

    From their perspective, they probably think they have valid reasons to dislike me: I came out as a lesbian at 16, retired at 40, and am happily married to Amelia, who happens to be transgender. It’s unfortunate, but at this point, I’ve chosen to dedicate the rest of my life to what truly matters—my amazing wife, our close friends, and my creative work. That’s where my happiness lies, and I’m ready to move forward.

    Maybe if I’m lucky, it will all turn out okay, but I know in my heart that it won’t, but I have to hold onto the belief that it will.

    • You are a force of impressive capacity, Thomas! You get to define what “okay” is for you and I trust you will master whatever you aim to conquer. Wishing a Happy New Year for you both!

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      January 2, 2025 at 10:35 am


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