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When we first saw Mozyr at the feline adoption center, he was demonstrating some amazing athleticism and intelligence in his play. He also gave me the impression he had good confidence in himself. That all seemed to change when we got him home. His preferred spot for a long while was as far under our bed as he could get, up against the wall. Meanwhile, Pequenita, who is half his size, proved to be as bold as he was shy.

For all I know, she contributed to his apparent loss of confidence. There was a brief spell when she seemed to take control of him, banishing him from the bedroom altogether. At the same time, he would bully her off the food, so it seemed like there was an exchange of the dominance roles going on.

He was skittish about receiving affection, and resisted being picked up. He behaved very shy around visiting family and friends. I found myself referring to him as being a chicken, and had begun to think he was just going to be a distant cat that tolerates people as a necessary evil in order to get fed morning and night and have his litter box cleaned.

After a long period of these behavior patterns, he surprised me with a change, suddenly deciding to show up in the bathroom during my evening routines. He would often jump up beside the sink to check out what I was up to, and several times he even laid down right in the sink I was trying to use. He seemed to be indicating that I was his choice for a buddy, but it stayed entirely on his terms. If I tried to pick him up, or give him attention at a time of my choosing, I got rebuffed.

That all went away these last few months, when he seemed to get out of sorts around the time we had company, and then throughout a couple of his recent illnesses. He gave us a scare last Wednesday, when he appeared to be really sick. A quick online search turned up several instances where his symptoms were listed as having potential to be serious, but also could be something simple that a cat can get over in a day. We are lucky that it appears to have been the latter.

We made it very clear that we were trying to help him, and he seemed to respond overnight. He continues to seem better everyday and not only is more like his old self, he is that and beyond. He is a changed cat, as if this illness did something to him. I’ve never had him sit in my lap before.

Yesterday, as I was reading on our couch (and Delilah was outside in her kennel), Mozyr showed up –that in itself being a rare occurrence lately– and proceeded to lay on the book in my lap –an unprecedented occurrence! These last two days, he has met my gestures of attention with greater acceptance than he has ever shown before. I pulled the book out from under him and continued to read. He laid in my lap so long that I decided I should get a picture.

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Never assume your pets won’t change their behavior toward you, especially if you base that assumption simply on how they have behaved with you for the year prior.

Change happens.

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Written by johnwhays

February 15, 2014 at 7:00 am

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  1. This is so precious! I absolutely adore the photos of you two. You look like best buddies! I think some transitions take extra time for an animal to adjust, even years. I’m excited to hear your relationship is continuing to develop!

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    elysa

    February 25, 2014 at 3:57 pm

    • I’ve learned a lot from Moz about how gradual adjustment can be and how long it can take. He’s a pretty good teacher. It seems that some good ended up coming from his illness. (He is even beginning to show more confidence in exploring ways to navigate Delilah’s presence!)

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      johnwhays

      February 26, 2014 at 8:37 pm

  2. My cat Ranger is not much of a lap cat either. Several years ago she was suffering from a urinary tract infection. She endured a rather traumatic trip to the vet. After we got home she ate her first serving of the medicine prescribed, she immediately came over and climbed up on my lap to purr and knead to say thank you! It was very unlike her, and her message was very clear. Clearly Mozyr is thankful for the care you have provided.

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    orbosphere

    February 15, 2014 at 2:28 pm

    • We don’t wish for trauma, but such events end up creating closer bonds, I guess. Thanks for sharing your experience!

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      johnwhays

      February 15, 2014 at 10:19 pm

  3. Beautiful!!!! Pets do can change, or I prefer to say they respond to their owners behaviors of loving them the way they are, understanding and respecting them. Good job, all your pets and horses are amazing!
    Love

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    duniamo

    February 15, 2014 at 10:11 am

    • Thank you, Dunia! It pleases me that you now know each of our pets, personally.

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      johnwhays

      February 15, 2014 at 10:17 pm


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